Our identity comes from how we perceive and explain ourselves.
We start out as somebody’s child and then years later we become somebody’s girlfriend.
Perhaps later we become somebody’s wife and then possibly become somebody’s mother. The children grow and while we are still their mother, they are no longer a child – they are now taking on their own identity.
As the children grow up and no longer need us for daily guidance, we often start to feel like we are losing our identity.
Some people look at this time in their lives as ‘a midlife crisis’. I think we should look at it as a crossroads. A time to re-evaluate who we are, who we want to be and how do we want to evolve from here!
I know that as my own children became adults many of my friends didn’t know my kids and therefore, I lost the title of ‘Heather’s mom’.
I got divorced, so I was no longer ‘Tom’s wife’.
My parents were no longer alive, so no one thought of me as MaryBelle’s daughter.
This was a huge turning point in my life where I had to do a reassessment about myself, who I wanted to be, how I wanted to live my life and how I wanted to be identified.
It took a good amount of inner work to dig deep and find out who I was, what I was made of, If I liked that, if it resonated with me and if I wanted to carry that story forward.
So, who are you?
How do you define yourself?
Who do your friends see you as?
Who do you want to be?
I say that it is time to examine these questions and see how they feel, deep down inside. Does it feel good? Is there something you would like to change?
I have personally done the work, I have helped many other women do the work for themselves, if you would like to explore how this could help you, please reach out to me.